Sally LeBoy, M.S. M.F.T.

Lic #MFT14768
619-685-5975
E-Mail: Sally_leboy@hotmail.com

Marriage Compatibility Questionaire

Q: Do the qualities that attract us to our mate, actually predict relationship satisfaction?
A: The answer is, sometimes yes; sometimes no.

Take the following true/false quiz to see if you and your mate are a match.

1. My mate and I enjoy spending time together.
2. My mate and I are able to disagree without hard feelings.
3. My mate and I share common ethical values.
4. My mate and I share common spiritual or religious values.
5. My mate and I have friends in common.
6. My mate and I agree about whether or not to have children.
7. My mate and I share the same philosophy on how to raise children.
8. My mate and I are able to get along with each other's families.
9. My mate and I are comfortable being on our own (without each other) some of the time.
10. My mate and I are O.K. with each of us having our own friends.
11. My mate and I agree on how to spend and save money.
12. My mate and I agree on how often to have sex.
13. My mate and I can talk openly about our sexual relationship.
14. My mate and I can talk honestly about our needs and feelings.
15. My mate and I find differences and disagreements normal to an intimate relationship.

14 to 15 True = Very high compatibility (you're keepers!).
12 to 14 True = Good level of compatibility. Nothing to worry about, but , some communication about the items you marked False, might be helpful.
10 to 13 True = You may have some significant differences that could result in problems if not resolved.
Fewer than 10 True= There are enough conflicts here to spell trouble. You Need to evaluate the basis for your relationship and see If it is really meeting your needs.

As you can see by the questions, compatibility is not a measure of sameness, but a mix of common interests balanced by a healthy appreciation of the differences that make us unique individuals.